4 Steps to Create the Reality You Want In Dating and Beyond
There I was sitting on my couch, tapping through Insta stories and saw it…another friend had gotten engaged
I felt my stomach sink and tense up - I could barely get a text back from the guy I liked
Let’s just say, it was…
My tipping point.
Everyone has one.
The moment you decide…
“Nope, I’m not going to live my life like this anymore. I’m sick of this.”
Some people take years to reach their tipping point.
Some never reach it simply because they settle for what they think is possible, even if it’s not what they truly want.
But the powerful thing is, the decision to change only takes a split second.
For me, it happened in July of 2018 and over the next 4 years, I completely transformed my identity, my mindset, my career, my health, and my dating life.
Want to know how?
It’s a 4 step process:
1. Write down what you want to create (in the present tense).
2. Create the beliefs and mindset that you can actually have it.
3. Take an action step each day that aligns with your future self (that already has what you want).
4. Appreciate all the chaos, detours, and hoopla along the way
In July of 2018, I wrote down:
I am healthy and enjoy working out
I live by the ocean
I’m in an amazing relationship that lifts me up and makes me a better person
I’ve traveled to all 50 states
I do what I love for work and feel fulfilled daily
I enjoy life every day
I drive a Jeep Wrangler
At the time, NONE of this was true.
But as I followed the 4 step process above and sought out the support + tools…
Things started shifting. At first it was the Jeep, then it was the working out…
And one by one, my reality was created.
It wasn’t luck.
It wasn’t waiting for external circumstances to be perfect.
It wasn’t blaming other people or situations.
It certainly wasn’t waiting for a certain amount of $$ in my bank account.
It was a simply decision to take charge of my reality.
It was a decision to shift my internal thoughts, beliefs, mindset, and actions I was experiencing each and every day.
And it’s is exactly what I teach and support my my clients with one-on-one to create the reality they want.
In your dating & relationships, and in your life overall.
Because you will have self doubt, you will take a detour, things won’t always be easy - and that’s where you need someone in your corner to remind you of how far you’ve come and to hold the vision + support for your potential.
If you don’t want ‘normal’, you want GREAT…let’s chat.