Why Grounded Optimism will Improve Your Dating Life

Hey hey and hope you’re enjoying this beautiful day!

When I first met my boyfriend in person in Boston, I didn’t have much expectation attached to him.

In fact, there was so LITTLE pressure attached to the outcome ( akaif he would be a good partner to date)…

I felt light and curious in our early stages of dating.

After our first few dates, he would say that he liked me and tell me that he would love to do XYZ with me and travel to ABC with me in the future.

In my mind, I playfully thought to myself…

“Let’s see what happens, shall we? ”.

You see, I had been hurt before (more time then I like to admit ) by taking words at face value, investing my energy, effort, and action without receiving much back.

Guys would SAY certain things but…

Their ACTIONS would be very different.

This kept showing up as a pattern in my dating life, so I knew I had to shift my approach to get a different outcome.

I decided to shift to something I like to call…

Grounded optimism.

Proceed with optimism, but always be grounded in what you value and what your standards are while dating.

Always be grounded in what you desire and what you bring to the table.

Always allow your date’s actions to align with the words they’re saying.

This concept took me SO long to learn (and actually embody) in my dating life.

We’ve all heard it before…

“Actions speak louder than words.”

But how easy is it to ignore?

Especially when you like someone.

Especially when you’re super attracted to someone.

Especially when they’re saying nice things to you.

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