3 Women Approached Him In Just One Night | Dating in Boston
If you tend to overthink but don’t want to…
Here’s a short story about what Jake did to go from overthinking and nervous to talk women — to feeling confident, at ease, and energized to strike up conversations with women whereever he was.
On the first call with my clients, I ask them what their top priorities are for the period of working together.
Jake’s top priority was to be able to strike up conversations in person with women he was interested in, and have it lead to dates as a result of the conversations.
At that point, he was overthinking how and where to do this. He wanted to feel confident, at ease, and excited to strike up a conversation with someone he found attractive — but he was stopping himself from taking action due to all the overthinking happening.
Over the course of a few months, Jake and I worked together to shift many things — and one of the BIG ones was his own internal pressure that was attached to these interactions.
Previously, he had been stuck in his own head thinking things like:
“What if she doesn’t like me?”
“What if I come across weird or creepy?”
“What if I go over there and can’t get any words out?”
“What if other people are judging me?”
“What if she has a boyfriend?”
Through mindset shifts, reflection, coaching, practice, and tweaking his approach — he went from overthinking and stopping himself from talking to women…
To having 3 women strike up conversations WITH HIM in just one night that led to dates as a result.
His energy, intentions, and mindset had shifted completely — and it clearly showed in his reality.
Men and women are ALWAYS picking up on your energy beyond the words you’re saying.
Do you feel like you’re a catch? Do you feel confident in who you are? Are you having fun and enjoying yourself? Do you know it would be awesome to date you?
Energy says a lot more than words ever will, and when you start to shift this — your reality shifts and more opportunities arise.
The first night I met my boyfriend Tom, I was wearing an oversized sweatshirt and baggy jeans. I wasn’t expecting to meet anyone I was interested in, and was simply there to have dinner with my friend.
After a brief back and forth with Tom (with strong eye contact )…
I said to my friend: “I think I’m gonna leave my number for him, f*ck it”
The thing was that…
There was ZERO pressure attached to it.
—> He could have had a girlfriend.
—> He could have not been interested in me.
—> He could have been married and not wearing a ring that day.
The energy I approached it with was light, carefree, and with zero expectations.
I knew it had nothing to do with me if he never texted me.
I knew the value I brought and I knew I would be a blast to go on a date with.
And that 2 minute interaction… was the spark to creating the best relationship I’ve ever been in.
But I could have VERY easily ignored that opportunity because I was overthinking or nervous.
Great people are around us all day, every day — but often your own mind can stop you from taking advantage of the opportunity.
And that’s why I created next week’s masterclass,
If you’d like to learn how to begin releasing the PRESSURE and nervousness currently tied to striking up conversations in person, I want to invite you to join in on my signature masterclass, How to Meet More People In Person.
When you join in, you will learn + discover:
Top mistakes men and women make when trying to meet people in person -- and what to do instead
The 3 tiers of best places to meet men and women — and how to use each of these tiers to your advantage
Why dating people you meet in person will allow you to date more intentionally + effectively
Michelle's 5 step process on how to strike up conversations + gauge if someone is interested in you (without being awkward/creepy)
How to transition from a casual conversation to asking someone on a date
How to begin shifting your fear of rejection and release pressure around in person conversations
Create your unique strategy to build more confidence around in person conversations
Integration exercises to begin putting everything you learn to practice in your everyday life!
Optional integration phone call with Michelle after the masterclass for personalized coaching + support