How To Charm Anyone on a Date

So you have a date lined up…

And I imagine — that you want it to go well.

Yes?

Ok, perfect.

Because on today’s podcast episode, I’m breaking down what to do before, during, and after your date in order to charm the other person and ALSO ensure you have a great time on the date. I’m talking dating psychology, strategy, best questions to ask, how to progress to a second date (if you want to), and what to have prepared going into the date so you feel confident.

Before the date, it’s important to get intentional with what you can control, instead of focusing on what you can’t.

You can control how YOU show up, how you feel, where you go, and how much time and energy you spend on that person.

You can’t control how the other person shows up, what they say, what they don’t say, what they do, and what they don’t do.

—> So let’s break it down, here’s are 4 things to focus on BEFORE your date:

1. Create your personal pre-date ritual to get into a good mental/emotional state.

So often I see clients that are rushing to a date from work feeling stressed + annoyed — or going into a date with a blahhhhh vibe. Can you relate?

A pre-date ritual is allotting 5-10 minutes before your date to get into a good headspace and energy, while setting your intention for that date. You can play your favorite song, write down 5 reasons why you’re amazing, do some jumping jacks, or simply close your eyes and breath for a few minutes.

2. Dress in something YOU feel good in.

How you present yourself does matter. You don’t need to be fancy or wear anything you wouldn’t normally, as that’s not authentic or the real you. I personally wear jeans and a simple top on dates, but make sure YOU feel comfortable and confident in what you’re wearing :) Energetically, when you feel good — your date is going to pick up on that good energy.

It’s less about what you’re wearing, and more about HOW it makes you feel.

3. Choose a spot to go that you can have a good experience no matter what.

When you choose a restaurant, activity, or coffee shop you’ve been wanting to try (or that you know you love) — you ensure you’re going to walk away from the date having enjoyed at least the food, drinks, or having tried a new activity!

4. Intentionally set a time limit to cap the date at.

After all, you are a high caliber person that values how you spend your time, energy, and attention. Without setting this, it can be easy to be swept up into someone’s energy and suddenly hours and hours have gone by.

You don’t want to give too much of yourself too quickly to someone new, without knowing their intentions just yet. High caliber people respect people who value how they’re spending their time - and so by prioritizing what’s important to you, it sends a subconscious signal to them that you are high value (which is verrryyyy attractive).

You don’t have to explicitly let them know you’re only spending 90 minutes with them (or however long you decide) - but internally know that you’ll wrap it up when it gets to be that time. Setting this also signals to your brain that dating doesn’t have to be long & draining, YOU get to decide how much time + energy you spend on it and the person you’re on the date with.

—> Okay, now you’re ready to go on that date!

To learn what to do DURING and AFTER the date to charm the other person (and feel good along the way)…tune into today’s podcast episode by clicking here!!