How To Not Take Things Personally

Today I wanted to share a simple concept that’s allowed me to not take things personally.

It’s called Projection.

Essentially, this is a concept in psychology that states that how someone responds to you…

Very rarely has anything to do with you or what you’re doing.

It has a lot more to do with how they feel about themselves and their personal life experience.

You can view this just like a TV projector projects onto the screen…

They are projecting their own perspective on life and on what’s possible onto YOU.

Their own perspective on what they would look out for.

Their own perspective on if it’s doable, or too late, or not going to work.

How they would feel about themselves — if they were in your shoes.

But guess what?

They aren’t you. And they never will be.

The next time you receive a rude/negative/judgmental comment.. know that it says a lot more about them, than it does about you.

For instance, when I was traveling around the USA solo a few years ago — so many people told me that it was unsafe and that I shouldn’t be doing it as a young woman.

Fear may have stopped or limited that person.

But for me, I don’t live with a ton of fear anymore — so this wasn’t my perspective.

(Yes, of course you take the reasonable precautions necessary — but for me the fear of something maybe happening is not going to control my actions.)

Of course, this can also happen in a positive sense (!!) —

When you tell someone that you’re starting a business, and they fully support you and ask you how they can be there for you.

This person believes in themselves and they know what’s possible for you. They know what’s possible for themselves.

They are projecting that belief and support onto you.

More often than not though, without the awareness of Projection it can be easy to take things personally and/or hold ourselves back based on other people’s opinions.

—> Today on the podcast, I’m walking through my simple 4 step process when I feel riled up/triggered/frustrated by something that someone says or does.

The process that allows me to recenter, remember this concept of projection, and not take things personally.

You can use this in dating, in your relationship, in your business, in your career, in your creative projects, and really any area of life.

I’m also sharing a few simple tools to not take on other people’s negative energies as you go throughout life.

Because inevitably, people will share their opinion.

Inevitably, things can get misinterpreted.

Inevitably, assumptions will be made.

When you start paying attention to people’s projections, you will see them EVERYWHERE.

It’s important to release the attachment to comments, perspectives, and opinions that are not going to be helpful in creating what you want.

Stay focused.

Stay in a clear energetic state.

Remember your intentions.

Know that it is absolutely possible.

Hope you enjoy and have a beautiful week.