I Struggled with This For a Long Time with Dating In Boston

Something I struggled with for a loooonnngggg time was putting too much energy into someone before I knew if they had the same intentions.

I was the queen of initiating, I carried the conversations, I planned the dates, I reached out, I rescheduled if they flaked on me.

And as a result, I found myself feeling drained, annoyed, and frustrated that the other person wasn’t putting in as much energy as me.

When I was first introduced to feminine energy in 2019, it freaked me out.

First let’s get into exactly what this is, and then I’ll share why it freaked me out so much…maybe you can relate lol

I learned that feminine and masculine energy wasn’t tied to gender (although the names certainly make it easy to forget that )

We all have both feminine and masculine energy within us, and depending on the scenario/experience — we’re more tapped into one or the other.

There is also both empowered and disempowered ways to express these energies — and often the disempowered ways are the ones that get highlighted, giving them a bad rep.

When these energies are in BALANCE and expressed in an empowered way — you’re in flow, opportunities and people come into your life with ease, and you feel confident and deeply trust in how your life is unfolding.

But when you’re out of balance (or they’re expressed in a disempowered way)??

You’re likely going to feel drained, constantly overthink, put too much energy in without getting much back, and try to control the person/situation.

OR

You’re likely going to be over accommodating, insecure, feeling unworthy, and/or have weak boundaries.

(…which of these sound more like where you’re at, if any??)

For me, I was wayyyy out of balance in my masculine energy and knew I had to embody more EMPOWERED feminine energy to receive what I wanted.

One of the exercises my coach suggested was to clear space on my calendar to not “do” anything. To spend it simply how I wanted to, instead of what I thought I “should” do.

This freaked me out because…

How was not “doing” anything and clearing space + energy supposed to move me FORWARD to creating the relationship I wanted?

My coach gave me an analogy I loved, and wanted to share it with you today.

Imagine an airport runway.

There are many, many planes on this runway — and a lot of them are trying to take off but they keep circling in the same patterns.

There are SO many planes in fact, that no other planes can land.

This runway is your life.

In order for any more planes to land, you must clear space and energy on your runway.

There are always planes circling above (aka the NEW people, opportunities, and experiences that are TRYING to make their way to you).

They’re all trying to land on your runway (aka come into your life) —

But your runway is currently so FULL with activities, mental energy on other people, dwelling on what could/should be, busyness, dating people who don’t want the same things as you, using work or anything else as an excuse, etc…

No new airplanes can land.

And airplanes can only circle for so long before they run out of gas and have to make their way somewhere else.

By embodying empowered feminine energy, you clear SPACE & ENERGY for what’s to come.

And you allow the new people, opportunities, and experiences that are aligned with what you want to land on your runway.

And it can happen quicker than you think

We go into exactly HOW to clear this space and tap into this empowered feminine energy in the Be The One accelerator, which I’ve opened for rolling enrollment last week.

Excited to see you in the accelerator soon!