The Risk Of A Negative Dating Mindset That No One Talks About
A few years ago, I was at dinner with some friends and we were talking about the dates we had been on recently.
Everyone around me was saying that “dating apps suck” and “there’s no one good left”.
I found myself nodding and agreeing with them.
Because at the time, I actually believed that.
The thing is…
Because I believed that…
Guess what my REALITY was?
Dating apps sucked.
I went on dates with people that I didn’t find attractive or interesting.
I ignored red flags and put up with stupid sh*t and subpar people because I didn’t believe I could have what I wanted.
And then one day, I was listening to a podcast and I heard the host share the famous Einstein quote:
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
I’ve heard that quote a million times before… but this time, something hit different.
I started to change how I approached my dating life, what I believed about it, and that’s when things started to shift.
And they started to shift very quickly.
The thing no one talks about is the risk of staying the same.
The risk of doing and thinking all the same things you have been, that hasn’t gotten you what you wanted.
Things like:
Having boring conversations that fizzle out and leave you feeling discouraged and alone
Not identifying red flags early on and feeling sad and frustrated when things don’t work out
Giving your time and emotional energy to people who simply don’t deserve it
Allowing your past or current circumstances and beliefs to influence your future
Allowing other people to dictate how you feel about yourself
Letting insecurities influence your dating life and what you feel your deserve
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My question to you is…
What is your life going to be like 3 months from now if you keep doing what you’re doing now?
What will your life be like if you stay the exact same?
There’s A LOT more risk in staying the same.
Because you won’t get anything different, if you don’t take a different approach.
The Be the One accelerator is that different approach.
Your 8 week virtual accelerator to build the mindset, confidence, strategy, and skill set to catapult you into the amazing relationship you’ve been craving.
If you’re ready to create a different reality in your dating life, I encourage you to trust yourself.
Deep down, you know you can create the reality you want.
It may just be a flicker of belief right now, but the beautiful thing is that a flicker can grow.
That flicker of “what if I just sign up?” you feel right now can and will grow into a ROARING bonfire of confidence, clarity, love, and energy that will impact your life forever
And before you know it, you’ve created exactly what you want.
All it takes is 30 seconds right now to trust yourself to take a step in a new direction.